This is a warning to American males. It is tragic
that this warning has to be issued. More tragic, however, could be your
failure to heed this warning.
Be careful how you look at American females. Be careful what you say
to American females. Be careful what you do to American females. When
I was a young man growing up dating was an open game and a fairly equal playing
field (with men hunting women and women playing coy and men pursuing and finally
"winning " them). It is totally different today. What was "fair
game" during my dating days could very well be "a crime" today. That
is why I am writing this warning.
Many of you are young American men and do not realize that many American
females have been "male-negatized. In other words, they have been taught
that men and their actions are to always be treated with suspicion. I
have worked with groups of young females for a number of years and am totally
appalled at how over-sensitive some of them have been trained to be.
Some are so sensitive that it is dangerous to look them in the eyes.
If they are wearing revealing clothing on the upper part of their body
and are also sensitive to being looked in the eyes, the only alternative I've
found is to not look at them at all, but rather stare past them into space.
That (staring into space) may be taken by some as "disrespect".
How did we get to such a sad state of male/female affairs? It is not
by accident. Over the past forty years certain elements of the women's
liberation movement have intentionally sought to build adversarial relations
between men and women. Some seem to have done it in order to promote
same-sex intimacy; others, because they wanted to hold sway over women and
still others because they either disdain or hate men. Whatever the reason,
the results are the same and so are the dangers.
So, I repeat, be careful how you look at American females. Be careful
what you say to American females. Be careful what you do to American
females.
I propose this Twenty-first Century rule of thumb: "If she pays you
no attention pay her no attention." If she shows no interest leave her
alone. Gone are the days (in the USA) when men can "safely" seek to
"win" the woman that appeals to the eyes and tugs at the heartstring. I
say again, "If she pays you no attention pay her no attention". In
other words, move on and keep searching until you find a woman who appears
to have a "natural" interest in you and wants to be in your presence and
wants the things you want. In my young days, seeking to "win a woman
over" was fair game. Today it may be called stalking. Stalking
is a crime.
If she does not want to be bothered with you do not bother her. Husbands,
if your wife does not want your intimate affection it is best to leave her
alone. (I do not mean leave her "physically" as in "break up" the marriage.)
What I mean is just don't bother her. She may very well have been
taught to make damning accusations against men and the husband is probably
no exception.
During the past month there appeared in the local newspaper in the town
in which I live a letter to the editor in which the writer lamented the double
standard the paper allegedly showed regarding men and women. The writer
indicated that the paper had asked people to write in telling good things
about their mother (for Mothers Day). The writer said the paper then
asked people to write in (for Fathers Day) telling how their father had embarrassed
them. This is characteristic of the attacks that are often launched
against American men.
Husbands, love your wives. As a minimum, read the following marriage
information contained in the Holy Bible: I Corinthians Chapter 7 and
Ephesians Chapter 5.
Beware of the times. Keep yourself under control. Use wisdom.
Do not try to make anyone love you. Love and if love comes that
will be wonderful. If love does not come remember that God is love and
God loves you. After all, you are likely to find someone who will love
you with true and natural love. God has created a big, big, big world
that now contains more than six billion people. Keep looking (if you are single [and never married]), keep
praying and keep the faith. I bid you God speed.
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Written at Greensboro, North Carolina, USA
by Bishop Clarence William Page
Copyright©
2006 Clarence William Page
